"Give us this DAY our DAILY bread" Matthew 6:11, KJV.
This popular text from the Holy Bible, history's all-time and annual bestseller, can serve as our cure-all for making-then-aborting New Year's resolutions.
The Lord’s Prayer (Matt. 6:9-13) was Jesus’ answer to his disciples’ request, “Lord, teach us to pray . . .” (Luke 11:1), getting them to focus primarily on the immediate - the ignorance of which starts most of our failings.
Perhaps the reason that approximately 77% of us New Year’s Resolution makers fail with our January 1st promises is that, contrasted to Jesus’ counsel, we devalue today’s opportunities and reach instead for tomorrow’s long-term wishes. And fail.
The greatest gift we have is today - which is why it’s called “the present.”
Therefore, let’s all begin 2019 with a new resolution but NOT for December 31st, but with a New Day’s Resolution - or, as Wolfgang Mieder said, “life is hard by the yard, but a cinch by the inch”!
Not surprisingly, the 10-step “tim commandments of ego-holism recovering” will not only help you manage ego-holism (the addiction to self), but can also help you become one of those 23-percenters who maintain successfully their resolutions, namely:
Target the Problem - Our December 31, 2018 overzealousness and over-commitment, paired with under-motivation and under-accountability, cause our best intentions to nosedive;
Own the Problem - Franklin Covey: “40 percent of us blame our busy schedules for our lack of follow-through”;
Step 1: Change your Lanes effectively by glancing back quickly before Driving Forward. Since our 365-day dream didn’t work, let’s now try one day at a time;
Step 2: Uncover more Buried Treasures the Deeper you Plunge below your Surface. Burkeman: 18-245 days are needed to change habits, vs. 21 days;
Step 3: Listen aggressively before Speaking. Proverbs 27:17’s “Iron sharpens iron” suggests that we develop a “New Day’s Resolution support system” for motivation, accountability and listening for shared goals, challenges;
Step #4: Let’s Grow Up, to become Children Again. Pray for childlike humility and transparency to start anew;
Step #5: Let your Failures jump-start your Successes. Learn from, allow yesteryear’s lemons to become 2019’s lemonade!
Step #6: Your Greatest Healings come out of your Revealings. Share your previous New Year’s Resolution failings with family, friends and together, lift up each other; and
Step 7: Now that you Know... Go, Elevate and Grow! Write and share your trials-turned-triumphs with others - a win-win growth!
Join me today and together, let’s take this first “New Day’s Resolution” step.
W. H. Murray: “Concerning all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elemental truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and wonderful plans: the moment that one commits oneself, the Providence moves too. A whole string of incidents issues from that decision, entailing a whole stream of incidents, meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamt would have come his way.”
Happy New Day’s Resolutions!